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Article By: Melina B
It’s human nature to experience periods of feeling “blah”—for lack of a better term. Sometimes life doesn’t feel as passionate as it does other times. You might feel like you’re doing everything the same, but it’s as if you’re simply going through the motions of your everyday life. Food might seem tasteless and exciting things might not excite you like they used to. These sensationless feelings can be frustrating and upsetting, to say the least.
If you’re experiencing lack of motivation, dissatisfaction, cravings of change, fear of change, or your days seem like they’re repeating themselves… It looks like you’re in some sort of mental and/or physical rut. Sometimes you don’t even recognize that you’re stuck in a rut and it just creeps up on you all at once. Regardless, it sucks to feel like you’re just killing time with no encouraging purpose. Before I continue, I must add that it’s important to find the source of your rut, because it could potentially be something more serious.
If it’s simply a negative cycle that you’re experiencing, here are 5 ways to help yourself break-free:
1. Change Up Your Routine
First off, step outside and breathe in some fresh air. It may not seem like a lot, but a simple shift in your daily routine can make a big impact on the way you feel. If you’ve been doing the same thing repeatedly without any positive effects, then maybe that’s a sign to change. Consider adding in some exercise, outdoor activities, new recipes, meal prepping, novel reading, story writing goodness into your life. Creativity is something a lot of people lose as they age, try to explore your creative side. A lot of these things mentioned can help maintain your stress, depression, and anxiety levels. Spice things up a little, it can make all the difference to your attitude, energy, and overall outlook on life.
2. Practice Self-Care
When we feel “stuck,” we are prone to remain in the same cycle out of habit. I’ve witnessed my loved ones in a bad mental rut and they give up on their appearance and health. Don’t let your hair get too long and scraggly and stop resorting to junk food for pleasure. I know things might feel helpless but if you’re going to do one thing, keep up with your self-care. It’s easy to give up on loving yourself when you feel crappy but try to refrain from falling deeper down the rabbit hole. Get your haircut, shower, use a face mask, moisturize, self-tan, shave, drink a smoothie, restock your vitamins… Whatever it is that makes you glow inside and out, do it.
3. Help Others By Volunteering
It feels like the world is taking everything from you, all of your energy and joy. When you’re in this state you feel like you have nothing more to give, which is incredibly false. Whatever you do, don’t succumb to playing the victim. The world isn’t after you, it’s up to you to run your life the way you want it. When you reach out and help others rather than focus on yourself, you find yourself feeling more positive. It’s important to provide aid to those in need, so when you feel like you can’t help your situation, try lending a hand to others. This could be the answer to your problem. Sometimes we get so self-involved, we forget that there’s a world with major issues around us. Volunteer at local animal shelters, old age homes, child-care services, environmental upkeeping, or anywhere else you can offer a helping hand. If you feel helpless, try to be helpful… Healing your soul is the first step to healing everything else.
4. Reward Yourself For All Accomplishments
Whether a task is big or small, make sure to get it done. Procrastination is bound to happen when you’re not fueled by any motivation. A lot of people prolong their projects because they believe it’s not ‘perfect’ enough or maybe it needs more time. Try to fend off your excuses and just focus on getting the task done efficiently. Do your best but don’t get hung up on perfection or else you’ll never get anything done! Any task completed is an accomplishment, so why not reward yourself after getting the job done? It’ll feel a little less mundane if you had something to look forward to for following through. This system can be really productive if you do it accordingly—aka don’t over-do it!
5. Keep Moving On
This stuff happens, there’s no way you’re going to go through life without an ounce of negativity… So just keep on moving on. It’s okay to let it take its course, just as long as you don’t let it consume you any further. You might be going through hell, but there’s nothing else you can do except keep going. In order for things to pass, you must let them. The key is to not give up and to remember that this is a moment that will disappear before you know it. Try your best to stick by your side and everything will work out the way it’s supposed to. As long as you acknowledge your problems, identify solutions, and take action, there’s not much more you can do. Some things are out of our control, so just let it be. You’ll be fine soon enough.
If you ever need to reach out to someone, don’t be afraid to speak up. Sometimes we need a little bit of perspective to help us understand that we will be okay. Talking to a therapist, family member, friend, or co-worker can help when you’re experiencing these feelings. It’s possible that they might be able to help you solve internal issues or struggles that you may be dealing with. Someone is always willing to help, and you don’t have to feel like you’re burdening anyone. This isn’t a shameful situation, this is just life and you’re not in it alone.