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Article By: Michaela Kowalski
I find my days very hectic lately, I have been home for December for Winter / Christmas break. Since I’ve been back, I found myself working a 6:30 – 2:00 job in my town. So, my days start early, and by the time I get home, I have an overwhelming desire to crash — but I still find myself doing a juggling act from that job, my internships that I love, and making time for my relationships. It’s all proving to be so incredibly difficult to make time to give myself some care and love.
I know I am not alone in the fact that our days are always a go-go, go. There’s hardly time to dedicate time to self-care and self-love since usually we are burnt out from the long day. But, today, I challenged myself to 24 hours of Self Care: A Entire Day dedicated to Self Love.
Naturally, on any given day, I do have almost a ritual of what I do as my basis of Self Love and Self Care, but as I mentioned earlier, it’s hard to do so when everything is so fast paced. Depending on the day and if I have work, I wake up at 5:30 and on my day off I sleep until my body chooses to — usually, since I am a morning person it’s usually 7:00 to 7:30. That’s what time I woke up this morning.
To start, upon crawling out of bed I open up my blinds, make my bed, and head downstairs to chug some water because I’m incredibly dehydrated and I make myself some green tea to start my day. As I finish up my water and tea, I head upstairs to shower which usually takes me around 10-15 minutes.
After my shower, I get into my comfy robe — which is something normally I don’t do. But, I felt the need to be extra if I was going to dedicate an entire day to self-care. I put on some music, because again it makes me happy and normally, I don’t put music, but I’ve loved this playlist in the morning as I get ready:
I comb out my hair and let my it naturally dry, trying hard to refrain from using to much heat on my hair so that it won’t get damaged, but as I do that, I start on my regular makeup and rumble through my clothes because it’s my day off. So, I can wear whatever I want. I settle on some striped mom jeans and a black square off t-shirt, and since, I’m not leaving the house today I just put my slippers back on. But who knows, that’s bound to change.
Since, now, I’m back downstairs and am starving, I make some breakfast. Usually, on work days, I have time for really just a bagel or protein bar since I’m often rushing out the door because I have this weird panic about being late. But today, I decided to make myself some scrambled eggs, homemade home fries, and I end up making some sort of breakfast scramble. With it, I have my coffee finally — my absolute favorite thing. I’m a coffee enthusiast (and tea, but not as intensely).
So, by now it’s maybe 7:45 I decide to attempt to start my day. Before anything, I grab my journal and my phone. Keep in mind, usually throughout my whole morning routine I always have my phone on me, and I do check it more often than I’d like, but I’m trying my hardest not to. I decide to start with my morning pages; it’s something I love to do every day — the best way I can describe it is verbal word vomit. Pretty much spewing out every single one of your thoughts but to your notebook, and you can be entirely brutally honest with yourself.
Once that’s done, I decide to meditate for fifteen minutes. I could ramble on how great benefit meditation is, but I’ll spare you the trouble. But, I’ll say this: both Morning Pages and Meditation does wonders for clearing your mind, and I highly suggest doing it fairly early in your morning routine. It’s best before you get on your phone and starts welcoming thoughts into your head.
So now at 8:30, I have the entire day to do whatever that makes me happy. That’s what I like to think of self-care and self-love, it’s doing little extra things one may overlook. The intent to make yourself happier and generally better all around. I’m a firm believer in the fact that you glow and radiate when you are indeed the happiest.
To start, I decide to head to the store and pick up some fresh flowers. That’s always something that makes me happy, I settle on some daisies and walk around the grocery store to see if there’s anything else I may want or need. Upon pulling up Pinterest, I decide on the fact I feel like baking, because again: It makes me happy.
I settle on some Chai cupcakes and grab the ingredients I’ll need and head home. Upon getting into the house, I light a candle that smells like autumn, and I start baking. By the time I’m done, it’s just getting to be 10:00, probably because I get lost in baking and listening to that same playlist from this morning.
By now, my Grandma is back from exercise, and my parents had already left for work already while I was baking.
Now, I’m stuck on what to do next. Although, I’ve been taking my time and conscious it’s been a relatively slow day — it makes me miss the hectic days.. weirdly enough. So, I end up deciding to curl up and read some of my books.
I’m currently reading Eat, Pray, Love as I am curled up on the couch. The book in my left, and a yellow highlighter fiddling through my right. As I read, I’m the type of person to highlight my favorite quotes and lines, it’s just something weird I do, but it makes me happy. Soon, I find myself getting lost in my book, and it’s 11:30, and my stomach desires food.
I like to eat, it makes me happy, and I’ve always grown up with a good relationship with food. But I’m also trying hard to eat better, so that’s a challenge, but again, it’s a self-care day so I can indulge but not to an excessive amount. I end up eating a clementine and decide to have lunch while I’m up.
I warm up a leftover vegetable soup and put an excessive amount of chili flakes and parmesan cheese. Then return to my book after I eat. By now, 1:00 I find myself verging on crashing, perhaps because I didn’t sleep too well last night and I’m getting exhausted and verging on becoming stir crazy.
I cave and put on some Netflix stumbling between F.R.I.E.N.D.S, which we all know I binge aggressively watch all the time and a mini murder documentary mini-series that I recently started. I end up putting that on and listen intently — this is by far another favorite thing of mine to watch.
By now, since the episodes are 45 minutes long roughly, it’s at 4:00 and I am impressed I didn’t fall asleep yet today, I desperately wanted a nap. Because guaranteed that would happen if I let myself, I’m trying hard not to so I can pass out tonight.
By the end of the night, or rather 7:00 I finish up my self-care day with a bath and face mask. I’m aware that this perhaps the most generic and cliche version of what one would expect on a day of self-care but it was a great end to the day.
I’ve realized a lot today in my day of self-care and self-love. It’s easy to find ourselves lost and overwhelmed in our day to day lives, so it’s easy to neglect things that make us happy or nurture ourselves. Typically, my routines of school are also very stark in comparison — completely hectic. But, I know by doing little increments of making myself happy throughout the day proves to be better all around for myself and my well being.
You deserve the love you give everyone else.
“Recently I’ve gotten to know myself most incredibly. I listen to my thoughts, I go on long walks, and I buy myself a coffee, I read books, and I smile to my reflection in the mirror, I say what I fear out loud, and I focus on the things that make me happy. I spent more time doing what stirs my soul than what withers it away, and that is why I can say that I can truly understand myself now. I’ve realized that all I want is good company — someone who listens to me, who shares my worldview and enjoys peaceful evenings alone. And I know that only person who can give me this is myself. I’ve managed to see the truth — that no one can understand me better than me. So, I can continue to do the things that make e happy, and in the process, I continue to peel off the layers of my soul — getting to know the real me and loving myself for it more and more every single day.” — Ruby Dhal
I strongly resonate with this quote and firmly believe it speaks volumes about self-love and self-care. You have to do all you can to fall in love with yourself because at the end of the day all you have is yourself. You are the person responsible for what makes you happy.