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Destination weddings, elopements and microweddings are becoming more and more popular with younger couples, who are looking to put their own personalities into their wedding. People are opting to travel to an amazing destination to tie the knot, rather than go with the traditional wedding at home. A popular place that allows an outdoor ceremony, with the benefit of a big and exciting city with a vast choice of epic options for eating and drinking in Central Park.
I have been helping couples to plan weddings in Central Park for the past five years and have planned over 200 weddings. It is my job to guide couples through the process of planning their wedding. All weddings are unique, but the first stages of the decision-making process are similar for everyone. The following advice should be helpful to anyone who is starting to consider a destination wedding anywhere.
There are four high-level questions that I suggest a couple begin with, when considering a destination wedding or elopement:
How long do we want to be in New York City (or the wedding destination)?
Who will we invite? (or will we elope, and go it alone?)
When do we go? (and what will the travel/flights cost?)
Where do we stay? (and what will that cost us?)
Before a couple can ask themselves these questions, they should have some idea about where they want to get married. If you have agreed that you want to be somewhere other than at home; either to save money, to avoid the fuss and hassle of planning a big wedding, or just to make the day as unique and special to you as a couple as you can, then the world is your oyster. Many of the couples contact who me have a deep love of New York, and once it has been suggested as a location for their wedding, they have been unable to agree on any other place.
The answers to those four high-level questions will help a couple get to the answer to the biggest question that many couples are concerned with: what is this whole thing going to cost? It is possible to get married in Central Park on a fairly frugal budget, and of course it is very easy to have a big, lavish and expensive wedding; New York offers endless choices to all types of couples. Whether a couple intends to bring guests with them on their adventure or not, I would recommend discussing plans with close family at this early stage. If you’re inviting them, they will need to know what is going on, and if you’re not inviting them, you may have to deal with some family members’ expectations.
Once a couple has got the basic travel plans (and guest list) thought out, then I would suggest getting me or someone like me involved. I can sort out everything a couple needs to get married in Central Park you can check out my website here (http://www.wedincentralpark.com/), except for the marriage license, which a couple is legally required to get themselves from City Hall. It is pretty simple and straightforward to get married in the USA, but many other countries have laws surrounding how long you must be in the country before you can marry, or the language the ceremony must be in, and where the ceremony can take place. So, many destination weddings tend to be the ceremony and celebration only, with the legal part having to take place at home. This is not the case with US weddings, and that’s one of the many reasons why my clients choose New York – their official wedding date is their real date, so there’s no deciding when to celebrate an anniversary.
Some of the couples marrying in Central Park visit New York alone, and elope for their wedding, some bring a group of nearest and dearest with them to celebrate their special day. The weddings I work on have range in size from just two or three guests up to around fifty, but most party sizes are between six and twelve.
The process that I usually take my clients through is to start with those high-level questions, go down to the next level, and eventually deal with the smaller details as we get closer to the date. It is easier to make decisions that way, the smaller stuff will follow logically once you have made the big decisions. Once you have made the bigger decisions, you can work out when to have any hair and makeup done, and what time you want cocktails at the reception, and eventually what time to book cars for and things like that. Many couples can find that making decisions for their wedding can be stressful.
It is important to keep in mind that the wedding is the start of your married life together, so a) there’s more stress to come, and you’ve got to get good at compromise for it to work, and b) this is your one chance to have a wedding, and it should be about you two and what you want as a couple so don’t let anyone else’s expectations stop you from having the wedding day you want.